Guide · Amsterdam · 2026-10-15
Relaxing Amsterdam massage: the words that ask for a slow, quiet, gentle session
Relaxing is what most guests want, even when they type another word. The good news is that every session here is slow by nature. The words on this page help you make it slower and quieter still.
Choose a slow technique
Sensual massage is the easy choice for a relaxing session. It uses warm oil, the flat of the hand and long strokes from the feet towards the shoulders, at an unhurried, even rhythm. Tantra is slower again, with breathing and long pauses, but it needs ninety minutes or more. For a first relaxing evening, write sensual and ninety minutes. The sensual massage page has the details.
Words that set the pace
Three words do most of the work. Slow tells her the tempo you want. Quiet tells her you would rather not talk much. Soft tells her to use less pressure. Put them in your message, or say them at the start of the visit. Once the session is under way, slower and softer adjust it at any moment.
A quiet room
A relaxing session needs a quiet room. Turn the television off. Close the window if the street below is loud. Switch off the bright ceiling light and keep one lamp on. Set the heating a little warmer than usual, because oil feels cold in a cool room. In a hotel, hang the sign that asks staff not to come in.
Talking or not talking
Some guests relax by talking, others by saying nothing at all. Both are fine. If you prefer silence, say so at the start in one short sentence: I would like it quiet, please. She will understand, and nobody will think it rude. The journal story Short is not rude is about exactly this.
Booking it in a few words
A relaxing booking needs no special message. Write the hotel or the street, the hour, sensual, ninety minutes, and the word quiet. That is enough for the reply. If you have booked here before and would like the same woman again, write her name, because a familiar face makes the start calmer.
After the session
Plan nothing for straight afterwards. Leave time to lie still. Drink some water. If you booked late in the evening, a relaxing session may end with you half asleep. Tell her at the start if you think that will happen, and she can let herself out quietly when the time is up. A warm shower afterwards keeps the calm going a little longer.